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Why is the Emotional Freedom Technique so important for our well being?

Tapping is a technique that literally rewires the brain by sending calming signals to the amygdala (the fight or flight mechanism of the brain), releasing your deepest fears, limiting beliefs, negative emotions and much more, so that you can walk through life from a far calmer place.

EFT tapping can help you to

Improve your self-esteem
Overcome procrastination
Overcome fear or avoidance of conflict
Let go of anxiety and worry
Become more assertive
Improve negative or volatile relationships
Have the courage to pursue your dreams
Stop your attraction to the wrong people
Deal with difficult people
Change old patterns in relationships
Handle the stress of financial issues
Handle the stress of the legal system
Deal with chronic illness and pain
Loose weight
Overcome fear of dentist or other medical treatment
Improve determination and focus
Dissolve test and interview anxiety
Control your emotions as a parent
Turn around negative self-concepts
Change your belief that suffering is necessary
… and more!

EFT Tapping is used by psychotherapists all over the world, because it is:

Easily learned, very simple to use, unusually fast, often acts within minutes and almost always long lasting

In my practice my clients and I have experienced great results in overcoming many psychological and physical problems and challenges.

More About Foot Reflexology

I believe that foot reflexology enhances and accelerates the body’s ability to heal itself. Did you know there are more than 7,000 nerve endings at the bottom of each of your foot and by pressing these nerve endings we can actually stimulate or calm down the glands, organs and systems connected to each nerve ending.

Foot reflexology is an alternative therapy often used in conjunction with traditional medicine. It is not only great for stress and anxiety, but research shows for example that it can help with pain and soreness caused by arthritis. It can have a positive effect on diabetes and it can have a positive effect on the quality of life for cancer patients.

When coming for a session you will find yourself in a spa-setting, with soft music and a relaxing atmosphere. The treatment may feel like a foot massage, but there is a therapeutic value to this treatment that is related to acupuncture.

Clients come to see me with different ailments and issues. I see children who are diagnosed with ADHD/ADD, since reflexology balances the nerve system, the brain function, the hormonal function and is extremely grounding. Some clients suffer from insomnia. Same here; the nerve system calms down, the cortisol and adrenal hormone secretion balances, and the mind quiets down. Foot reflexology helps with calming down the symptoms associated with anxiety and depression.

Can tension in the body simply be a sign of unhappiness?

The body is our most sacred messenger tool. I think that missing its ‘please-help-me’ sign or simply ignoring them is the biggest mistake we can make. We can ponder about what we all truly want in life. What it comes down to is simply being happy. Happiness is what we all want.

Our environment may teach us different ways of retrieving this happiness. Funny enough, in western society we believe that happiness is a goal. Perhaps a goal we need to work hard for, something we have to achieve. In ancient teachings we learn that happiness can only be in the moment. It is not a goal we have to work hard for. It simply is in the moment. As babies we live in the moment. We do not live in the future or past. A baby simply ‘is’. When it is hungry it cries, when it needs milk it cries, when it needs nurturing it cries, when it needs a diaper change it cries. The baby’s body communicates its message to the parents.

When we grow up we often learn to suppress to communicate what we truly need. Not a lot of people will say out loud that they need nurturing. Instead we learn to negotiate, and often even how to manipulate to get what we want. We forget that what we truly want is satisfaction of our simple needs: Safety, love; nurturing on all our levels. We get distracted by our own loopholes.

Simply satisfying our needs can only occur when we go back to what the body is telling us. When our body feels tensed and stressed it means something is not in balance in our life. When we keep ignoring our body we can become ill. The only way to resolve is to learn to be in the moment and connect with the body. What are we feeling, where is this pain or tension and what can we learn from this, what is behind it? Are we not feeling loved? Are we not feeling safe? What do I need in this moment to feel better, what does my body want?

By simply communicating with our body and acknowledging its pain and stress we start to heal. Our body is simply telling us that we are not happy; our life’s purpose is not being fulfilled. How can we change this? Only you know. You only know the truth and no one else! In a counselling- and/or energy session we can start to work on revealing what maybe bothering you.

Step by step you can uncover why you are not happy and how to change this! Your ego may kick into fear though; it may attempt to prevent you from finding answers within. Simply trust your inner wisdom, simply silence your mind. Or is this not so simple? We may have created limiting patterns that we believe are keeping us safe. We may have created these patterns or beliefs when we were children. At that time these were probably keeping us safe but now they can prevent us from growth. Instead we are blocking ourselves and this is keeping us from our highest potential.

Now we have entered the important topic of our subconscious mind, which is acting like an old fashioned tape recorder since it has no mind of its own. The patterns recorded there can for example stop us from reaching our ultimate awareness of being happy in the moment. We may find ourselves in an endless circle of confusion: Perhaps we think we are not safe when we are happy, so we focus on our unhappiness in order to feel safe. Perhaps we may think we are not worthy of being happy, thus we create the pattern of not being deserving of being happy.

In order to be in the moment and truly enjoy happiness we will first have to change our mindset

3 Great Tips to Beat Stress

Do you often feel exhausted, overwhelmed and stressed, while you are not really that busy physically? It might be that your adrenal glands are making overtime.

I believe that in Western society many live their lives this way; on Monday morning we wish it was Friday afternoon already, and we fantasize about our ‘escape’ to the tropics next month or even next year.

We ARE literally wishing our lives away and this behavior causes a lot of stress, since our true self knows this is not the right way to live. I remember the first time one of my spiritual teachers asked me how often I ‘loose’ time… of course I didn’t know what she was talking about. She then asked me if I ever experienced driving my car on a familiar road and all of the sudden I already arrived at my destination without actually recollecting the scenery I drove by. I had to admit somewhat embarrassed that that sounded familiar to me.

My mindfulness teacher then sent me home with a nice exercise to see if I switch to ‘auto pilot’ often: I had to go to a grocery store and buy my groceries like I always do and stay alert and aware all the time in that store. Even… when I was waiting in line at the cash registers…

This was the very first time I realized how often I am not ‘in the here and now’. In the beginning of my mindfulness training I was shocked how often I ‘leave my body’ and ‘travel in my mind’ to the past or the future.

My thoughts about the past had often a sad vibe to them. My thoughts about the future were of an escaping kind, or loaded with anxious feelings about things still waiting to happen.

Daydreaming is one thing, but stressing about the past or the future can have a devastating effect on our health and well being. Being on auto pilot, more present in the mind than in the present time, can cause stress and anxiety.

Three tips on what to do after you catch yourself on auto pilot with harmful thoughts about your past or future:

Focus on your breathing, wiggle your toes and become aware of your body again. Pinch yourself carefully if necessary. Come back in the here and now.

Take in your environment. Look for three different shapes, five different colors and then stamp your feet on the ground while breathing consciously into your lower belly if you can (in your own rhythm).

Can you remember your harmful thoughts about past or present? Are they often the same? Do you feel stuck in the past or scared about the future? Or would you rather be somewhere else? If so, where would you like to be and can you think of a plan, step by step, to make this a reality? Write anything that comes up on a piece of paper or on your phone’s notepad. Your true self just gave you advice on how you can make positive changes in your life!

If you need help with connecting to your true self and manage your stress and anxiety level, please consider booking EFT tapping sessions, Reiki Healing or Reflexology with me, or ask me about a mindfulness workshop.